Why Arab women do not want to have children

In much of the Arab world, women are forbidden to talk openly about what they do not want to have children. But in recent years more and more women are moving away from the conventional wisdom, which says that the main purpose of their lives - to become a mother.

The journalists Vice spoke with Arab women and found out why they do not want to have children. The reasons are different: from the experience of the fact that they do not feel safe in a politically unstable region, the reluctance to follow the tastes of society.

Why Arab women do not want to have children

"It is almost self-interest - to have a child in today's reality,"

"I do not want to be a mother because Yemen and the Arab world as a whole, can not guarantee children the basic human rights, such as quality education and decent housing. It is almost self-interest - to have a child in today's reality. And as the population continues to grow at an incredible pace, shrinking resources only. So, if things continue at the same pace, we will see the day when we just do not have enough food to feed all the people "- Marwa, 26, an architect.

"I do not think I can look into the eyes of your child when he asks me why I gave birth to him in this world,"

"Why would I want to bring up their children in Egypt, amid all the injustice and indecency with junk food, bad water and dirty air? And no matter how the child grows up educated and talented, his dreams, he never reaches, unless he is the son of someone rich and powerful.

Another problem is that even if my child will grow a decent man, he can easily go to prison on false charges of evil, inhuman tyrant. If that happens, I do not think I can look into the eyes of your child when he asks me why I gave birth to him in this world, because it is, of course, I did not ask "- Ezra, 27 years old, entrepreneur.

Why Arab women do not want to have children

"I do not want to have children, because I do not have answers to 70 percent of the questions they may ask me"

"Of course, the idea of ​​having children is attractive - a little man, created from your genes and the genes of the person you love. But I do not want to have children, because I do not have answers to 70 percent of the fundamental questions about life, they can ask me. What can I tell them when they raise issues of faith and philosophy? They trusted me to tell them the truth, but I must admit that the concept of this have not. I'll share what I know, and it may be quite wrong.

I would like to know what it is - to have a family, with your partner to leave a mark in this world. I just do not think I can take responsibility for another life. I am sure that my children will not be fully satisfied with what I give them.

Of course, my heart melts when I see my nephews and nieces, but I know that raising a child - not a simple matter. And I do not want to check their selfish maternal skills "- Nada, 22, a writer.

"I can not afford to send their children to a decent school"

"I want to continue to work, but combine it with motherhood incredibly difficult. Also, I know that I can not afford to send a child to a decent school. And even if I could, I would have had to work day and night to pay for all this. And it means that I did not have time to educate them as parents should do it "- Mai, 27, a journalist.

"The world is too damaging and destructive"

"On the women very much under pressure due to the conventional wisdom, which consists in the fact that motherhood - a natural instinct for us. But no evidence for this assertion is not. I think a lot of women become mothers due to family pressure and society. Personally, I believe that having children - is too selfish and inhuman, because the world - is too devastating and destructive place to raise a child "- Nur, 19 years old, student.

Why Arab women do not want to have children

"I'm not ready to take care of someone else"

"I do not want to have children, because it is not ready to take care of someone else. And anyway, I have no interest in children. For example, I do not want to choose between buying diapers and dress himself for the baby "- Jihad, 32, a producer.

"Even if the fate of the world depended on me, I still would not have a child"

"I just do not feel like I want to be a mother. Everyone says that I'm going to regret, and that motherhood - a natural instinct for women. They say that the women - the basis of all of humanity, and they are responsible for the upbringing of children, to make the world a better place. There are those who look at it from a purely biological point of view, insisting that the birth of a child - my main function is as a person. But I do not share any of those views. Even if the fate of the world depended on me, I still would not have a child, because I just do not want to "- Lam, 33, accountant.

"World - a brutal place, full of horror and pain"

"I do not want to have children, because the world - is a cruel place full of horrors, misery, hunger, poverty, disease and crime. All this makes me wonder if this is really the very environment in which I want to give birth. Forcing a person to exist in this world - a real cruelty. If you really love children, do not bring them into this world. And if the natural instincts begin to overwhelm you, think about adoption, "- Nesrin, 23, an English teacher.

"I'm afraid that something will happen and I lose it with him,"

"I do not want to have children, because I'm afraid that with them that something will happen, and I lost them. I lived in Syria and saw the war. Although I did not lose anyone from the family, I can not imagine the pain you experienced other families who have lost children. This loss of pain I can not stand. Therefore, to make your life easier, I decided not to have children "- Dana, 26 years old, a teacher.

Why Arab women do not want to have children

"I do not believe that my genes are so unique that I owe them pass"

"I think we all need to focus on children who are already born, and on the inhuman conditions in which many of them live. I do not think that my genes are so unique, that I should give them to the next generation. I do not have some specific skills that determine the fate of mankind. Well, in the end, I am not so careless to just hope for the best and ignore the fact that I, like most people, do not have all the necessary capabilities to grow a healthy baby "- Zhanna, 30 years old, a dentist.