Is it right not to share?
• Is not share?
When taking a walk in the park to the son of Alanya Kohlberg Carson approached by a group of boys and demanded that he shared with them his toys, his mother came out of the situation, so it is unlikely to expect other parents. Her story gained tremendous popularity on the Internet, and people's reaction to the fact that Alan wrote in Facebook, will surprise you.
Kohlberg wrote his post on April 19, and they have shared more than 200,000 times, about the same time by clicking the "Like" button. Hundreds of parents and childless people are left a comment, creating a complex but thought-provoking discussion about the true meaning of the old saying "Do not be lazy - share!" ( "Sharing is caring" in English). What is surprising, Alanya Kohlberg approach rather unite people and not divide them.
So, what is a small mom wrote Carson? "My child does not have to share with your children. As soon as we arrived at the park, came to Carson at least six boys, all demanded that he shared his transformer, a figure from the game Minecraft and truck. He was obviously taken aback and pressed toy to his chest, while the boys were pulling hands to them. He looked at me. "You can tell them" no ", Carson, - I said. - Just say "no." You do not have anything else to say. " Of course, as soon as he said "no", the boys ran to me snitch that he did not share. I said, "He should not share with you. He said "no." If he wants to share, he will share. " Because of this, some parents looked askance at me. "
"Nevertheless, that's what I say. If I, a grown man, came to the park and eat a sandwich, do I have to share my sandwich with strangers in the park? No! Is educated adult, unknown to me people will extend their hands to take my sandwich, and be offended if I do not give him to pick it up? And there again. So tell me, once you throw at me sidelong glances, obviously thinking that my son and I behave rudely, - who then do not have enough education? A person who wants to give his three toy six strangers, or in six strangers who need to be given something that is not theirs, even if the owner of these things obviously unpleasant? "
"The goal - to teach our children to cope with adult life. I am familiar with a few adults who clearly have not learned to share as a child, I know more people who can not say "no" to others, or set limits, or take care of themselves. It concerns me the most. In any case, Carson brought toys, just to share them with the little daughter of my friend, with whom we were supposed to meet in the park. He did not want to share them with greedy toy boys only because he was going to surprise her. "
"The next time your toddler will run up to you upset that the other child is something that is not shared with him, please remember that we do not live in a world where people give all they have, others simply because they asked. I'm going to teach your child that all is well arranged ".
Many parents in the comments supported Alania, also giving examples with their children and pointing out that the child who plays with a toy does not have to for no reason at all to give it to another child, as soon as he asks. Some noted that the child must share public things, such as swings and slides in the park, but not their personal toys, if he so wants.
Other parents angrily wrote that you can not compare a toy and a sandwich, and that there is nothing wrong with that, to give other children play their toys, if they ask. One of the users said that since the child is not able to make friends and that nothing's mother taught him to do so.
What do you think: Alanya - meanie-beef or is it right?